He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.
In a constant search of becoming my best self, I put a lot of emphasis on self reflection. A mind can be sharpened by reading. The body can be tuned through exercise. But what about the spirit. How often does it become overlooked? It takes mind, body, and spirit, all working together, to become our best selves.
The spirit is the connection to the soul. It is the soul that is connected to creation and the creator. It understands life and knows its purpose. The spirit acts as a guide for when the way becomes lost. It is light amongst the dark.
Recently, I have realized that I have been trying to do things on my own. I know that God has a plan for my life, and trust his leading, but I have been relying on myself for the most part. It took a wake-up call for me to realize that I need to rely on him more. That call is not an enjoyable one, often resulting in pain, but it gets the job done. I wonder how many other troubles would have been avoided if I had heard my spirit calling sooner? How much further along my journey would I have been now if I had just listened? I was not nurturing my spirit, so I was unable to see the signs.
The spirit is refreshed through prayer and meditation. This is something that, for the most part, is done in privacy and without distraction. For me, prayer has always been an intimate connection with God, and something that I do not take lightly. I have guarded this connection, saving it only for myself. But last night I realized that I had never prayed, out loud, with my wife. So I did, lying in bed with her hand in mine. That simple act has begun to realign our hearts in relationship to each other, the kids, and ourselves.
Marriage can be hard, especially when kids are thrown into the mix. The biggest problem in a relationship is unmet expectations. That occurs when people are not on the same page. Sure, the big picture is established between the two, but it is often the accumulation of little things that snowball into bigger problems. In today’s fast paced world, it’s no wonder that most marriages end up in divorce. Communication is key to reestablishing the connection. The spirits yearn to be aligned – for two to become one.
More than ever, the spirit needs to be strong. In this new age, where the whole world is connected, we often fall into a mob mentality and take up with ideals that we feel represent who we are. More times than not, it leads to a negative mindset towards anything or anyone who doesn’t align themselves with that ideal. The spirit stands strong, but it is also filled with love, compassion, and humility. It is the connection to the Almighty and the universe.
Listen to the spirit.